To be or not to be… yourself

Intrebare! Are you happy with having  so many friends who overwhelm your Ymess account? Are you happy with having a V.I.P. like hi5 account, constantly viewed or monitored? Are you happy with people gazing at you, like they’d watch a Mediterenian sunset? Yes? Then I guess you’re happy with yourself! Or maybe not…

I AM  happy with myself!!!! No, you’re just happy with some reflections, reflections of you which show up on mirrors. But these mirrors are neither realistic, nor trustworthy. Why turn to them when you want the answer to YOUR problem… The key is in you, not in some deformed reflection. So I ask you again? Are you happy with yourself?

Oameni buni… ce vreti sa fiti, un pachet de plastelina sau un soldatel de plastic. Acum, desigur, plastelina e usor modelata din exterior… dar ganditi-va, daca cineva dintr-o fata vrea sa faca caine, iar altcineva din cealalta fata vrea sa faca toaleta? Dap, la sfarsit amandoi sunt fericiti, poate le-a iesit ceva frumos. Dar cum sa se simta bucata aia de plastelina, acum cu dovedite feature-uri de dualitate? Ok, odata, ca un caine foarte constiincios in privinta lipselor, dupa… noh, not too good. Cu soldatelul… stii la sigur, unii il vor pune pe raft, altii il vor arunca la cosul de gunoi. Mai greu insa cu modelatul. You take it as it is… or you reject it, as it is. La plastelina mai sunt si alte probleme… unii vor numai s-o mutileze pe cand altii se indragostesc de propriile creatii. Intrebare! Le placea lor… indragostitilor… forma… initiala, de paralelipiped? Probabil nu…

Of of, ok, recunosc, asocierea nu e bash reusita. Dar vedeti… punem asa importanta pe… imagine, pe… opinii, pe perspective, atat de mult incat uitam faptul ca… bai, nimeni nu ne cunoaste mai bine decat noi insine. Noi stim atat de multe despre noi… ok, poate sfaturi ne ghideaza… dar in final, you should only follow what you feel, never what’s said from the outside. Poate ziceti ca… ceea ce simtiti poate avea efect negativ asupra voastra. Bai… do you really believe that? Granted, sunt destul ganduri rele ce trebuie cenzurate… dar, de exemplu, voi chiar credeti ca baiatul gras din familie nu-si da seama ca e gras atunci cand termina o portie de sumo-like  spagheti? Dar… mama i-a servit-o, ba mai mult i-a urat pofta buna! Inconstienta mama, dar si mai inconstient baiat ca nu stie sa spuna nu, sa-si asculte glasul care a ragusit de-atata “nu” cat a strigat.  Avem astfel de glas in noi… din pacate, ne lipseste vointa, motivatia sa-l gasim… si sa-l ascultam. Si atunci… vietuim in aceste… reflectii… Dar ele nu arata goliciunea… NU! Si stiti… poate am sta in locul reflectiilor… pentru restul vietii dar uite se intampla ca acestea… sa nu ne mai fie pe plac.. si atunci, ne retragem in noi… si numai atunci… ne vedem.

Now… speaking for myself, I do not have many friends (if any), I don’t have hi5-like (let alone a VIP like) hi5 account and I certainly don’t turn heads when I walk down the street, well… not in a positive way that is! I’ve tried to improve on that and… sometimes these mirrors had a positive response… sometimes they didn’t and soon, I got fed up with all this inconsistancy. I have looked at myself for a change and that’s where I found the problems lie. In tine… tu construiesti… in reflectii…  tu esti construit! Intrebare… ai de gand sa te lasi construit? Then you’re just weak…

So the morale… be yourself! Multi n-o sa te placa, dar cativa… o sa te accepte, ba mai mult, o sa tina la tine. Invata sa te promovezi pe tine si numai pe tine! And then… you’ll find that… the Ymess account is getting fuller… the hi5 account is getting popular and people start to notice you. It all comes… naturally. And this time… you can firmly say: “I am happy with myself”.

~ de Paul Fiterau pe iulie 12, 2009.